just wanted to say that we're the ones who coined the word exotrauma!
it was absolutely created to try and /prevent/ people from invading spaces, and to differentiate between what happened here and what didn't. the concepts of "here" trauma and "there" trauma already existed - there just wasn't a word for "there" trauma. we filled that void. we've dealt with both trauma here, *and* exotrauma - making it super infuriating when people insist that we're just trying to speak over them with "fake trauma". like... no. our trauma here is /worsened/ by our exotrauma.
not to mention that, to be 'speaking over' them, we'd have to be talking about it in the first place, using their spaces, and refusing to get out... which we don't do. we rarely talk about the details of our exotrauma even in OUR spaces, like our journal here on dreamwidth. also, how can you "steal resources" if you don't need them? that's my genuine question. if you're using resources, it's because you need them - whether the reason you need them is here, there, or whatever.
this is getting longer than I was anticipating, but yeah. exotrauma is a word simply meaning "trauma that did not happen in this world/life." we will forever stand by it, because - for a multitude of reasons - it's a useful distinction to make. I don't think they'd take too kindly to "I fought a dragon and wow it left a lot of scars," in their spaces.
of course, syscourse has decided to take this out of proportion, make up lies, and ignore truths, as if our coining of the word means that we think exotrauma is more valid than anything they've gone through... when we've stood up AGAINST that, and make it clear that we won't tolerate it. on an individual basis, yes, exotrauma can mean more than trauma, or vice versa. but as I said: that's a personal thing to be decided by the individual. anyone making these claims trying to bridge over ALL exotrauma and ALL trauma is either very insensitive, or trying to get everyone's goat, and we don't stand for it.
then again, that doesn't matter to them. as thyme said, they don't care about the words we use, they just don't want us to exist. we coined it specifically to fill the void that they INSISTED get filled, and are now mad that we've filled it. there isn't any winning. --nava
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it was absolutely created to try and /prevent/ people from invading spaces, and to differentiate between what happened here and what didn't.
the concepts of "here" trauma and "there" trauma already existed - there just wasn't a word for "there" trauma. we filled that void.
we've dealt with both trauma here, *and* exotrauma - making it super infuriating when people insist that we're just trying to speak over them with "fake trauma". like... no. our trauma here is /worsened/ by our exotrauma.
not to mention that, to be 'speaking over' them, we'd have to be talking about it in the first place, using their spaces, and refusing to get out... which we don't do. we rarely talk about the details of our exotrauma even in OUR spaces, like our journal here on dreamwidth.
also, how can you "steal resources" if you don't need them? that's my genuine question. if you're using resources, it's because you need them - whether the reason you need them is here, there, or whatever.
this is getting longer than I was anticipating, but yeah.
exotrauma is a word simply meaning "trauma that did not happen in this world/life." we will forever stand by it, because - for a multitude of reasons - it's a useful distinction to make. I don't think they'd take too kindly to "I fought a dragon and wow it left a lot of scars," in their spaces.
of course, syscourse has decided to take this out of proportion, make up lies, and ignore truths, as if our coining of the word means that we think exotrauma is more valid than anything they've gone through... when we've stood up AGAINST that, and make it clear that we won't tolerate it.
on an individual basis, yes, exotrauma can mean more than trauma, or vice versa. but as I said: that's a personal thing to be decided by the individual. anyone making these claims trying to bridge over ALL exotrauma and ALL trauma is either very insensitive, or trying to get everyone's goat, and we don't stand for it.
then again, that doesn't matter to them. as thyme said, they don't care about the words we use, they just don't want us to exist. we coined it specifically to fill the void that they INSISTED get filled, and are now mad that we've filled it. there isn't any winning.
--nava